Being screamed at was my introduction to the Belong To crowd.” At seventeen Annaig stepped into a community hall to join what she had been told was a club for gay youngsters. A lesbian in Dublin, none of her school friends were “out” and so she was hoping to find her tribe at a meeting run by Belong To, Ireland’s largest LGBTQ+ lobby group. Before she could even find a seat, the teenager says she was “shouted at and then shunned for misgendering a trans-identified male by accident”. “I was embarrassed and confused, but I wasn’t being deliberately rude. I was fully in support of trans rights. My mistake was not catching someone’s name, so I said, “Oh, what’s ‘his’ name?” I just didn’t realise ‘he’ identified as ‘she’.”